Thursday, October 08, 2015

just finished reading: the life-changing magic of tidying up by marie kondo.



Just adorable

What an adorable book. The shape and feel of the book itself is cute, and the person telling her story about being a lifelong (and I mean LIFE LONG) tidying enthusiast, and all her little hints for how to approach your things, they’re just adorable. Or maybe the word I’m looking for is refreshing – her voice and the ways Japanese culture show through in what she writes were totally charming to me. Anyway, here is my plan for putting my house in order, as prescribed by tidying expert Marie Kondo:
Discard things that don’t spark joy. Pick up each thing, hold it in your hand and ask “Does this spark joy?” and if not, get rid of it. Discard first before storing.

Order of discarding

Go by category of thing, in this order, and do all the things in each category at once:
               Clothes – Books – Papers – Komono (odds & ends) – Sentimental items – Photos.

I’m relieved that there’s an order to go in for this, from least emotionally draining to most. Komono has its own order:

               CDs, DVDs – skin care products – makeup – accessories – Valuables (passports, credit cards, etc. – electrical equipment – household equipment (sewing kit, stationery, etc.) – household supplies (medicine, detergent, other expendables) – Kitchen goods and food supplies – Other (spare change, figurines, etc.)
               Items related to a hobby are their own subcategory

Papers

Keep only the things that spark joy! Because of this rule, Kondo recommends throwing away just about all papers, and then having only a few files that are very broad in scope. I don’t know – can I go there?

Timeline

Kondo says the best approach is putting your house in order in one go, which is to say, over the course of about 6 months, tops. It sounds like she often goes into peoples’ houses to help them with tidying and helps them throw away 30-40 bags of trash in a single day.

Relating to things, storing things

When Kondo goes into a house to help someone put their house in order, she first kneels down on the floor for a couple of minutes to thank the house for the way it supports and shelters the people and to ask for its help in deciding where to store things. She recommends keeping all objects of the same type in the same place and not spread out in any way, and each person gets one space for their storage. Types of things should be pretty broad, like, “electric” or “paper-like” and not sorted by when they would be used. When she’s not sure about where something should go, she will ask the house where it believes the thing should go, and then she puts it there.

Storing clothes

Kondo believes strongly in vertical storage, not flat stacks, and recommends a particular method of folding that causes the things that are folded to stand up vertically in a drawer. That way, when you open the drawer, you can see all your options. (She also sorts these folded clothes by color - dark in back to light up front.) She recommends hanging things in a closet in such a way that the largest, heaviest items are on the left and the lightest items are on the right.

Discarding

As she discards things, Kondo touches and holds each thing one at a time to see if it sparks joy for her. Then, if not, she treats the moment as an opportunity to thank the things for what they’ve done for her and meant to her. If she is discarding a gift, she thanks it for conveying the sentiments of the giver. If it’s an outfit she thought she’d like but didn’t, she thanks it for helping her learn more about herself. The act of discarding is like a celebration or a graduation, so Kondo dresses up for the occasion, usually wearing a dress and a suit jacket.

The bottom line

The bottom line is this: if you want to have a tidy house and be surrounded by things you love, get rid of all the stuff that you don’t love, that’s just sitting there being only partially useful and taking up valuable space and mental energy. Give thanks for and celebrate each thing, then let go of all but the ones that you love. And then you’ll be surrounded only by things you love. Kondo believes there will be a moment when something clicks and you know you have the right amount of things. 

Developing a skill

Another way of describing her approach is that by touching each of our things, holding it in our hands and making a decision about whether we really love it, we develop the skill of knowing ourselves and what we love better and better. The discarding gets progressively harder, but then so does our skill at discarding.

I am excited about this

I am super excited to put this into practice. Thanks to an unfortunate circumstance in our basement, I already have a head start on discarding books – there is a trunk full of books in my car that are on their way to the Book Thing very, very soon. 

Book Thing - hilarious pictures

(Check out the Book Thing’s website – they have a hilarious set of pictures of real books they’ve gotten. http://www.bookthing.org/ Things like Don Knotts explaining how to lay bricks, or how to be a gun runner for fun and profit.)

Dreams

I’m hoping this will be a start to a new way of life in the near future. An intermediate goal is to have fewer of those dreams where I suddenly realize there is a vast storage space in my house that I hadn’t realized was there before.

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