Book on Children of Divorce

I was reading a review of this book in my Christian Century:

Between Two Worlds

It's a study of how divorce affects children, done by a woman whose parents divorced when she was two. She did interviews nationwide of people ages 18-35 whose parents divorced before they were 14, and gleaned a lot of stories from them about the difficulties of the experience--having to be on guard, learning to negotiate between one parent's rules and expectations and the others'.

I bring this up because it seems to me that this could be a healing book for readers who are still dealing with their parents' divorce. You're not alone, in other words. And it seems like good reading, too, for divorced parents who want to know better how to support their kids.

Obviously the question of divorce is a very difficult one--a case by case issue--but I don't think this book is necessarily an argument against all divorce. Abusive relationships, for starters, are more damaging than divorces to kids. But the book is more an exploration of the consequences for children of divorce, who bear a particular burden. The question it raises for me is: how important are the children's needs when a decision about divorce is being made?